Songs that remind you of a special person or memory
Travelling to new places and watching the world go by
Knowing every lyric of a song
Reading a captivating book
When your pet comes to cuddle you
Being warm and cosy when it’s cold outside
Making new memories every day
There are a million and one things to be happy about and I could honestly write on this topic forever. I loved writing this and it made me feel so grateful to be alive and be able to experience all of these wonderful things!
I hope that this made you smile and I’d love to know; what would you add to the list that makes you happy?
You are beautiful no matter what you or anyone else may think. You are enough. You do not have to change any aspect of yourself in order to make someone like you more. Being you is the most important thing in the world. Try not to compare yourself to other people out there, yes they may be beautiful or successful but they are not you. Life would be boring and dull if we were all the same.
Every feeling that you have is valid. Honour it. Accept it. You are allowed to feel any feeling or emotion that comes up. Listen to these feelings and breathe through them. It will all be okay.
You need to become your own best friend. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important one. Stop beating yourself up and saying mean things to yourself. You wouldn’t do it to your best friends, so don’t do it to yourself. Take care of yourself. Eat healthy and exercise (yes I know, you hear it all the time but trust me, it will be worth it!)
Life is tough and it is most likely going to get tougher but YOU are tough too. You can get through anything. Don’t be afraid of reaching out to your family and friends for help and advice, they love you and will understand.
Don’t let people walk all over you; stand up for yourself. And stay strong! Mistakes are meant to be made, they hold lessons for the future. Forget and Forgive.
Step out of your comfort zone. Do things that scare you. “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!” Go have fun. Open yourself up to trying new things. Experience life fully.
You’ve got this!
I believe in you, always ❤
Love from Rebecca, your future self xo
I wrote this in my radical self love bible as it is one of the tasks and honestly it felt so empowering. I wish I had known all of this stuff and been given this advice when I was younger. Even now, some of this advice I need! Normally, I give other people advice but do not take it for myself so writing this to me at a younger age felt sort of like giving advice to another person and in that way it was easier to write. I recommend that you try this, it’s a really fun and enlightening experience.
Hey lovely readers, sorry I haven’t been as active on here recently…I have been struggling with things to write about as I wasn’t feeling so positive within myself and felt that blogging about positive things just wouldn’t be authentic. So today, I want to talk about my experience with accepting change.
ACCEPTANCE: willingness to tolerate a difficult situation.
Within the past couple of months or so my IBS (irritable bowel syndrome(different from my IBD: inflammatory bowel disease)) has been flaring up. I’ve been having pains in my stomach almost every day and have been feeling generally unwell. I continued with taking my medications and trying to reduce any stress. I knew I had my annual hospital checkup on the 7th of July so I held off going to my doctor until then. When I went for my appointment, the consultant seemed happy that my Ulcerative Colitis (IBD) was under control and that it was my IBS playing up. He told me to try cutting out dairy to see if that would help my symptoms. Coming away from that appointment, I was quite happy with how things had gone and feeling positive that I had something to try.
However, a few days into going dairy free and my thoughts and feelings about it weren’t so positive. I started thinking of all my favourite foods that I could no longer have; pizza,chocolate, cakes, ice-cream etc. I realised that this was not the way to go about it so I researched into alternatives and have been finding it not so bad since. I’ve even been able to go out for meals and find something to eat that I like with no dairy.
I have still been feeling a little down and not really sure why. I think it is a mixture of change and hormones. Change has always been something that I’ve struggled with, even if it is a positive change. I’ve always found it a little hard to accept the transition to a new experience in life but I am willing to stop resisting. I really want to share this ‘Acceptance Prayer’ with you as it is what I have been reading every day to shift my mood.
I have realised how important acceptance is. Acceptance allows you to be free of the power of your life circumstances as you are making the choice to accept whatever is going on. Acceptance is also you trusting that life will work out and that the universe has your back. It will stop you from feeling fearful of change. So whenever something comes up for you, take a deep breath and repeat “I accept” until you feel the stress and angst melt away. Trust and have faith that everything happens for a reason and all will be well. It will not happen overnight but if you are willing to accept, you are on the right track to long lasting happiness.
Thank you for reading and I hope this has been helpful to you ❤
Do you feel as if your head is constantly buzzing and your thoughts are on overdrive? Do you find it hard to relax and take time to chill out? If the answer to these questions is “yes”, then I have 5 wonderful tips for you today that will help bring calm into your world!
This post is inspired from Calm book by Michael Acton Smith. I absolutely love this book and it has beautiful pages. Go check it out if you are interested in learning more about calm and mindfulness. The Calm app also has some great meditations and calming soundsthat you can use on the go.
Be here in every moment. Notice your surroundings and how beautiful they are. When talking to a loved one, really look at them and give your full attention. When you are out a walk, really look at the nature around you; smell the flowers, listen to the birds and just be aware of the world you live in.
Stop Future Tripping
Stop worrying about tomorrow, for in two days tomorrow will be yesterday. The only thing that is real is right now. This moment right here is right where you need to be.
Keep a Journal
This is something I have been doing recently, and I am loving it! It really helps me to feel thankful for what has happened that day and also if I have had a particularly stressful day I write down 3 highlights of the day. You don’t have to write down every thought or detail of your life. You can start by writing a list of what you are grateful for. Buy a pretty notebook and colourful pens to make it fun!You could even use your phone as an on-the-go journal.
Here is one of the journal pages from the Calm book.
Be More Mindful
Choose to be more mindful in every aspect of your life. For example, before you go to sleep at night, make sure you stop using electronic devices at least 30 minutes before. This is something I really need to work on as I am the worst for staying on my phone scrolling through social media for hours! Also, be mindful when you are eating. How many times are you quickly munching your lunch in your break, or watching TV or on the phone? While eating, be completely present in the moment; savour every bite and take your time. Eating is one of the most important things for our bodies so slow down and enjoy it. When you start to practice mindfulness in your life, you will feel a sense of calm in and around you. Mindfulness also lowers blood pressure, reduces pain and improves sleep. So overall you will feel healthier, both physically and mentally!
Create a Calm Spot
Create an area in your house/room that you can go to and instantly feel at peace. This could be a dressing table filled with your favourite things or a small corner in your bedroom. For me this area is my altar in my bedroom which I created using some shelves and drawers. (To check out my altar, have a look here). You can fill this area with inspirational prints (check out my LiveInTheLightShop!)photos of your loved ones, positive messages, candles, incense, cards, books, ornaments, sentimental items,n drawings/paintings etc. Anything that makes you feel good!
I hope this helps you to add a little peace and calm in your life.
You don’t have to hide your emotions or mask the negative ones with a smile.You do not owe anyone an apology for feeling how you feel.
It’s okay to feel sadness, anxiety, happiness, excitement, anger, jealousy. To feel calmness, pain, loneliness, fear…any emotion that takes over you.
So often, we try to control our emotions. They can be scary but they can also teach us things and allow us to open ourselves up. You have to be able to let go of controlling the unchosen emotions.
Embrace all of life’s wonderful ups and downs. Accept your emotions, whether they are positive or negative. Let it be. Let the feeling consume you.
Allow yourself to feel each emotion fully. Allow the pain to take over you and let yourself fall to the ground because you think you can’t take it anymore. Allow the joy to fill you up so much that you can’t wipe the smile off your face. Allow the sadness to come and sit with it for as long as you need. Allow the anger inside you to simmer and simply just feel it.
Life is too short to not experience things fully. I would rather feel a thousand emotions at once than feel nothing at all.
So whatever emotion comes up for you today, right now, let it come and embrace it fully.
Today is World IBD day. This is a day to raise awareness of two chronic conditions under the bracket Inflammatory Bowel Disease; Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis. As you may know, I have Ulcerative Colitis and was diagnosed in May 2013. I take lots of medications daily to help control the symptoms and have had many hospital admissions. When I was diagnosed, I had never heard of ulcerative colitis which is why I think it is so important to raise awareness because there could be people suffering in silence. I hope that this will help anyone who feels that they are alone.
I want to share a couple of blog posts that I wrote previously about living with IBD with you today and I hope it will give you some perspective on what it is like to live with a chronic illness. I would greatly appreciate it if you took the time to read them.
You can help support World IBD day by wearing something purple (the purple ribbon is used a symbol to represent IBD) and donating to Crohn’s and Colitis UK by texting PURP19 £(amount) to 70070 or by donating through the justgiving page linked below.
Thank you for taking the time to read and I will list some helpful websites below in which you can learn more about inflammatory bowel disease.
Comparing is a habit that can be extremely hard to shift. It is something I have always struggled with and I often find myself comparing the way I look to how that girl on Instagram looks or thinking thoughts like why can’t I have a body/hair/skin etc like hers? and other similar crazy thoughts. This way of thinking can create resentment, jealousy and competition. These feelings are just a way of hiding our fear. Fear that you are not good enough. Recognising this pattern of thinking is the first step toward overcoming it.
Remind yourself that there is room in this world for everyone to shine and we are all here for a reason. You might not know what that reason is just yet, but there is a job for everyone on this earth.Think of how boring it would be if were all the same? Appreciate your uniqueness, there is no one exactly like you on this earth!
Self love starts from within, so work on being the best version of you. See my post, “Be Unapologetically You” for some tips and tricks on learning to love yourself. Any time a negative or comparing thought enters your mind, say “I am enough” in your head and it will bring you back to the present moment.
I really hope this has been helpful and if this resonated with you, I would love to hear from you! I’m sorry I’ve been absent for a while…I’ve been working on my own self-love practice and I needed some time to get back into writing. Thank you for being patient with me ❤
I have just finished reading “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers, for the second time. I first read this book over a year ago when anxiety first became a problem for me. It totally spoke to me and it helped me through a really tough time. I recently picked it up again due to my anxiety becoming worse again and this time, I feel like I connected even more deeply with the words. I wanted to share some of what I have learned with you in the hopes that it will help you face up to any fears that may be holding you back.
It’s funny because I haven’t written a blog post in a few weeks and believe it or not, it was down to me feeling “the fear”. I had hit a block with writing and the longer that I left it, the worse I felt. Today, I noticed the book sitting on my altar and I just knew that I had to face up to my fear. Now that I have started writing, I feel good and the anxious feelings have disappeared!
There are so many different things that we might be fearful about; public speaking, falling in love, change, relationships, career, money, being alone, making decisions, heights, spiders…. whatever it may be, it is not a nice feeling. However, we don’t have to let it hold us back from living our most expansive lives.
One of the main things that hold us back is the thought of what other people will think of us and if they are judging us. Why should it matter? No one else’s opinion can make you feel inferior, unless you give them the power to do so.
In “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”, Susan Jeffers states that “the only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out…and do it .”This is so true because I bet there has been a time in your life where you have dreaded doing something yet when you eventually do it, you feel so much relief and it probably wasn’t as bad as you thought it was going to be!
Now, I’m not saying you have to go out and face your deepest fear head on…but taking small steps to get there is a way to ease into it. For example, say you are afraid of change and even the slightest adaptation makes you feel anxious, to start off with you could change one thing in your daily routine. Start off small and build up your confidence in facing your fears. Don’t rush it and be gentle with yourself. This is all a great opportunity for growth.
Another great point I have learned from the book and applying to my life is to “Say YES to your Universe.” Everything that comes your way, no matter how scary, just say yes to it. When you accept what is happening in your life, it becomes easier to overcome the fear. “In saying ‘yes’ lies the antidote to our fear.”If you are constantly saying ‘no’ to the things in your life, you are blocking your growth. I believe in you and you should believe in you too! You can do this. Feel the fear and do it anyway!
I hope that this has helped you and that you make a small step to facing your fears today. I would love to hear about your journey so if you would like to share, you can chat with me here 🙂
I recently started reading Gala Darling’s book,Radical Self-Loveand it has really been making me think about how we treat ourselves. Often, we beat ourselves up for making mistakes or not being “good enough”. We call ourselves names or focus on the negative things we see about ourselves. I know that I am guilty of doing this at times! It makes me incredibly sad however, because we really should have a loving relationship with ourselves as it is the most important relationship we will ever have. We are with ourselves 24/7 and of course, we won’t love ourselves every minute of every day but I believe that we should be making a conscious effort to do so and when that self-love seeps in, you will feel ultimate happiness.
Some things that I suggest you give a try in order to connect more deeply with yourself are:
Meditation: All you need is 5 minutes of sitting by yourself with no distractions and just be. It will help centre you and you will feel connected to your mind and body.
Turn your phone off: This is a hard one (and if you really can’t face turning it off, turn it on silent and leave it in another room for a while) but it really works wonders! I have started doing this and just leaving my phone away from me while I take the time to read a book, do some yoga or even just sit with a cup of tea. Social media is a huge distraction and there are so many different energies that can affect you when you are scrolling through your timeline. If you are constantly on social media, you cannot possibly be focusing wholly on yourself and just being.
Affirmations:I have affirmations written on post-it notes all around my house and every time I see one, it is a brilliant reminder of self-love. There are so many that you could use but you have to find the ones that resonate with you the most. It could be as simple as standing in front of the mirror and saying, “I love you” while looking straight in your own eyes. It feels strange at first but honestly, the more you practice it, the better it will feel. (I’ll leave a few affirmations to help get you started at the bottom of this post).
Get moving: I really am not the biggest fan of exercise at all! But when I discovered yoga, it totally changed my life. I have learned to love my body the way it is through a regular practice which was hard for me due to my illness but the results are amazing. I urge you to find your favourite form of moving your body; it could be walking, running, cycling, swimming, yoga, dancing…anything. Just get up and move!
Take yourself on a date: This may seem like a strange concept as you may be worried about what people will think if you are out alone, but to be honest no one is really caring as they are too wrapped up in their own lives and even if they do, why should you care!? Some suggestions could be to take yourself on a date to grab a cup of tea/coffee, go on a long walk by yourself, take yourself out for dinner or some shopping. Just spend some quality time on your own. If this seems too much, try it in the house first and gradually build up the confidence.
Affirmations for self-love:
I love you.
Love is all around me.
I deserve to be loved.
I am thankful for everything in my life.
I take loving care of my body.
I can do it.
I respect myself.
I forgive myself for not being perfect, I am doing the best I can.
I am realising I deserve the best.
I wish you the most wonderful journey of loving yourself deeply and I would love it if you shared your experiences with me. So please don’t hesitate to message me 🙂
Do you ever feel frustrated when you think that you are healing/ have healed something in your life, only to find that something triggers it off?
*Raises hand* This has been going on for me the past few weeks. Before Christmas, I started to get really stressed out all the time about the littlest of things and it wasn’t long before I had the familiar tightness in my chest and shortness of breath. Yep, my anxiety had come back full force. I tried many things to help like yoga, meditation and breathing exercises. However, I was still having a lot of panic attacks and not sleeping properly at night. A couple of weeks before Christmas, I went to the doctors for a regular appointment when I found myself telling him how I had been feeling and I left with some medication to help.
I felt really uneasy about taking the medication at first as I had come so far since I stopped taking it and I was able to manage the anxiety by myself. I also felt that it meant I was a failure because why couldn’t I overcome this on my own? My mum pointed out that it is exactly the same as me taking medication for my physical illness. I was blinded by the stigma around mental health.
Now, a few weeks into taking the medication, I am getting slightly better. The horrible side effects are beginning to wear off and I’m beginning to feel more like me again. However, there are times when I get annoyed at myself for being triggered or not handling my anxiety well. I seen the above quote on Instagram the other day and when I read it, my eyes filled with tears. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Anytime I feel this way, I read the quote and it instantly calms me.
It is okay to have rough days, it is okay to trip up sometimes. No one is perfect. You are still healing. Honour your healing journey and take it one day at a time.